The Changing American Family

just setting here this morning ,thinking on a few things..mainly how much things have changed in just 40 years...the time i can remember..

i think on morals...
i was raised to say thank you and yes mam and no sir..you said the blessing at every meal and when you laid down at night,you had your prayer talk with god...if you needed something ,you asked for it..you did not just take it..if you borrowed something,you returned it and took care of it while it was in your care..
i tried as well to raise my 2 kids that way as well..my sons dad died before he was born in 1980. i was 17. a story for another time. remarried 2 years later to my daughters dad..10 years later we got a divorce,a very abusive situation, a story for another time... so the kids had half their life with a single parent..tried to be mom,dad and friend,which WAS not smart-just be which ever parent you are-be a friend when they are grown,until then -BE PARENT;
still tried to instill as much moral and unconditional love as possible...
I think on family...wasn't anything else like being at my grandparents ,taught me most of values,mom too, to trust .love , and most of all that they would be there for me no matter what as long as god allowed them...
now i am raising my grandson -age 2 and 1/2 full time and my 5 year old grandson i split time with the other nanna...i am glad they are here,i know where they are,what they need ,so i don't have to worry about things like that....
but what worries me is that i am seeing more and more of this..the problem is not that these babies /kids are being with us,the problem is they are missing out on a family structure..no mom and dad when they want to see them.it is nannas,aunts,foster, that tuck them in at night..what has happened in our culture??? seems it is more important to a growing # of young people to remain childless-but at the same time-making babies....Now don't get me wrong...these kids should be with the ones that will take best care of them...what i am asking is ,,,what in the hell has happened to the ticker inside you that just makes you fall in love when that little one looks at you and smiles??????? it is suppose to just warm your heart from the inside out.....NOT allow you to leave it....i just do not understand....

i am grateful i am allowed in this life to be as close to my 2 grandsons as i am..i am grateful for the friendship of my grandsons other nanna. we are proud to have them...but we can't do the things other grands do...we can't ''spoil and send em home''...we have to be the disciplinarian , it is not part time ...and as we get older i can't help but think on years to come..these bodies age quickly i am afraid
well , time to go...the little one beckon's ....